{"id":8261,"date":"2017-04-11T16:06:34","date_gmt":"2017-04-11T23:06:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/alannarisse.com\/blog\/?p=8261"},"modified":"2017-04-20T20:33:13","modified_gmt":"2017-04-21T03:33:13","slug":"double-bind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.alannarisse.com\/blog\/double-bind\/","title":{"rendered":"Double Bind"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>Book: Double Bind &#8211; First Glance, but mostly about me and how it&#8217;s not about me.<\/h2>\n<p><strong>First, before I tell you about this cool, new book, I&#8217;ll give you a snapshot of my life as I see it pertaining to the book&#8217;s subject.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After umpteen years in the tech industry, I left my career as a web developer\u00a0to go back to school and pursue a career in art. I earned my Masters Degree\u00a0hoping to become an art teacher. I needed to find a career that didn&#8217;t take me for granted. I needed to feel like\u00a0my ambitions and skills appreciated and not squandered. I needed to feel like I mattered to the world. I&#8217;d been feeling mostly like a cog.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Sure, I mattered plenty to the companies I worked at but it seemed, only after I left. I&#8217;ve heard rumors that my last job had to hire two people to replace me. I gave one company a very detailed 6 month plan to help me advance my career. Everyone was on board, but I couldn&#8217;t make progress. I had to make good on my commitment to leave if no progress was made, only to have to sit and have the heartbreaking &#8220;what can we do to keep you&#8221; talk after the 6 months had come and gone with too many roadblocks and not enough progress. And damnit, I loved that job, but I had nowhere to grow.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m modest, hard working, dedicated, inspired, creative. I am generally not a squeaky wheel and I go out of my way to grease other&#8217;s wheels, even when I get no benefits from it. I&#8217;m a silent wheel greaser. Maybe that&#8217;s my problem&#8230; Maybe this book will help me figure out I should be shouting it from the mountain tops. I am awesome, hear me roar! Maybe modest is a dirty word.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m not cut out to be a cog.<\/p>\n<p>After graduating. I felt totally lost. I couldn&#8217;t see myself anywhere in art school except teaching tech classes. Turns out, I missed tech. I missed\u00a0it to my very core. I was the kid who took apart her toys and reassembled them. I was the kid who NEEDED to know how things worked. I was the kid who NEEDED\u00a0to know why and how things were broken and wanted\u00a0to fix them.<\/p>\n<p>I did some research and found out I&#8217;m a statistic. Women leave tech mid-career twice as often as men. If you&#8217;re curious why, make a very large pot of tea and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/search.yahoo.com\/search?fr=spigot-chr-gcmac&amp;ei=utf-8&amp;ilc=12&amp;type=671737&amp;p=why+women+leave+teh\">do a google search<\/a>. This women-abandoning-tech-careers business has got to stop. It&#8217;s a problem, I can see all the various ways this problem operates and I NEED\u00a0to help fix it. The (lack-of-women-in-tech) wheel is a-squeakin&#8217; and I am at the ready with a giant tube of lube, just let me at it!<\/p>\n<p>Getting back into tech after not having a corporate web developer job in 6+ years has been HARD. I always make it to round two of interviews, but the jobs so far, have been given to someone else. I know I&#8217;ll find my forever job soon, but damn, some days I get so frustrated and sad. I keep inspired by soaking up more learning and by looking for kick ass women. So much of my struggle is from my damaged ego, if I can just lean on the strength of others, I will relaunch my career. I will become part of this incredible new movement of women taking on tech.<\/p>\n<p>Second. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Double-Bind-Ambition-Robin-Romm\/dp\/1631491210\">Double Bind<\/a>: Women on Ambition, Edited by Robin Romm, fresh off the presses.<\/p>\n<p>My virtual friend Evany Thomas has an essay in this book, so of course I had to get it. I opened it directly to the page where she talks about struggling as a new mom to land a new challenging job in tech. It gave me strength to know that yes, my stubbornness will continue to serve me, as long as I continue to honor it. There is no other choice. Forward forward, never straight has been my motto since high school. The wind may force me off course slightly, but I will not turn back.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-8262 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/alannarisse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/IMG_5403-e1491950862278-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p>After reading Evany&#8217;s\u00a0ass-kickingly inspiring\u00a0essay, I started poking around the book. And there in the beginning of the book are a set of quotes. The middle one reads:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;My heart says, get up, get back into the game, this isn&#8217;t just about you.&#8221; \u00a0&#8211;Theresa Rebeck<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And I am reminded where to find strength when it feels too personal, too close to the bone. It&#8217;s not for me. It&#8217;s for my daughter. It&#8217;s for young me who didn&#8217;t give up&#8230; didn&#8217;t listen when boys told her girls weren&#8217;t smart enough to program. For all the women out there struggling. Especially for all the mothers out there afraid to try again, start again. I&#8217;m doing this for you. I love you, you are beautiful.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Book: Double Bind &#8211; First Glance, but mostly about me and how it&#8217;s not about me. First, before I tell you about this cool, new book, I&#8217;ll give you a snapshot of my life as I see it pertaining to the book&#8217;s subject. 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