Tom was looking back at the year and on the top of his list for things he learned this year was: “Marriage does change things, and its worth it.” That got me counting how long we’ve been married and thinking about how it’s changed things. We’re just about to reach our 5 month mark now.
Looking back, I am so glad we had a big(ish) event. We both chose to create some artistic projects as gifts to each other and to our friends and family. This allowed us to feel like it was really our wedding and it made our journey into marriage seem more solid and tangible. Most importantly the act of our wedding bonded us as a family. I’m so glad I changed my name, even though it’s been a bit weird getting used to the new one, I feel so happy every time someone calls me by my new name. I completely understand why people keep their maiden names, but for me, it has been a good choice and I love it.
Tom and I lived together for several years before we got married. Very little has changed as far as finances, responsibilities, and home life goes, but something HAS changed. But putting words to that change is difficult. In trying to put words to my feelings of being newly wedded, I typed “How does marriage change a relationship” into Google. I was trying to see if some of the new feelings we have now for each other are common amongst newlyweds. Of Course on the discussion boards I came across, I got a great deal of very impersonal and shallow garbage. it seemed the less people had to say about their new found bliss, the more believable they seemed to me. Maybe it’s something words or images can’t do justice to. Whatever it is, it’s nice and I like it. Thanks Tom, for new journeys, and for being so hot, and for being so very good at loving me. I love you.